Women (Scholar) Bashing

It's time to join in the whining.

I'm not shocked at all to read what that woman scholar had to say. However, I am shocked to read what that woman scholar had to say ON THE PAPERS. There IS a DIFFERENCE between pyjama-party bitching and bitching on the national papers. Not very bright, I say.

Now, why do we whine about doing National Service? Because it takes away at least 2 years of our prime? Because it pays us peanuts and demands more than monkeys out of us? Because it simply sucks? All of the above? Worst of all, we go through all that to have ungrateful lasses calling us whining wimps.

A young male scholar was recently taken to task for carrying racist remarks about minority races in his blog. Don't we have a more lethal character now - one who blurts sexist remarks representing half the population???

I was mulling over why such words could come out of these supposed smart belles. Do they really think so, or have they been conditioned to think that way, or are they simply Yes-Women, trying to please their bosses?

From a pass vocation, I see women settling themselves comfortably into their comfort zones and signing their lives away to that 1 stable job, happy to come in at 9, check some emails, tea-break at 10, lunch at 12, tea-break at 3, and finally rushing to do the job proper beyond 6. The boss prepares to leave and sighs contentedly,"Women staff are so much more productive". Women do seem more contented and less willing to venture out of the comfort zone. The thought of complaining when they have a stable job is certainly out of this world.

However, since days of yore, men have wanted something more. To make good and join the ranks of the elite - the rich and powerful. The Asian male still very much wants to give his family the good life. National service simply isn't part of the bigger picture. While we still serve out the mandatory 2-year service, it isn't asking too much to whine abit. Women whine more about broken nails that take 2 weeks to grow back. Also, while it may seem prestigious to obtain a scholarship at 18, things do change along the way. Guys who thought the scholarship would be their ticket to greatness begin to question the system, maybe eventually abandoning it. The bond breakers.

Women these days are a confused lot. It probably began in the 90's when sexual equality was on every woman's lips. A sudden liberation from age-old traditions empowered women to break free from the general tributes of the Asian Woman. Feminism became a permanent fad.

However, here in Singapore, women are on the cusp of feminism and traditional feminity. While we cannot expect them to cook for us anymore, we're still expected to hold the doors for them. While we cannot get them to mend a hole in the trousers, we're still supposed to change a light bulb. While they scream "Chauvinist!" when we expect them to keep their mouths shut, they go on to mindlessly tell the media baseless nonsense when we let them.

What about pleasing the boss? No matter what, whatever the boss says, one can't be too wrong by saying the same thing? But when a boss says you would get bombed flat if you criticize his actions, it sure sounds a like a bad mix of self-righteousness and misguided infallibility. Now, no matter how great a boss' achievements are, one still needs humility, especially when dealing with the masses, no? So, I say be fair to both parties. I'm sure in one of your corporate-learning retreats at tropical resorts, you've learnt that communication is the key and that teamwork is vital?

In life, we learn that there are always 3 sides to a story. Your side, his side, and the truth.


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